My man and I are now living together. Not officially but I haven't been back to my place in ages.
To me it makes so much sense. I sleep better when I'm next to him, we eat better and we seem to get stuff done too. Cohabiting does have its downsides. I've dubbed it as the bashful bladder and to be polite I might forgo the other description I have. Here's someone who I love but if we are to be honest relationships take an awful long time to get out of that i'm-actually-wonderful-24/7 sydrome.
Being wonderful 24/7 means your bowel movements must be kept under wraps at all costs. The bashful bowel if you will.
There are all kinds of statistics about cohabiting. I hate statistics becuase I end up beleiving 69.3% of them. If we do get married (and that according to the statistics is unlikely after living together) we are more likely to get divorced.
I disagree though. I think it's essential to live with someone before.
Essential and fun. 'Living in sin' as devout christians like to call it - brings us closer. Imagine we actually had habbits or character traits that we didn't want the other to see. Although I think everyone in a relationship has a few of those. I was just kind of hoping he would somehow think that I don't ever poo. Know what i mean?
It is in fact one of the hardest things about living together in the beginning. You want to keep a certain amount of mystique but in the real world- you just gotta let some things out (scuse the pun).
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I think it actually helps to live with someone before marrying them, and if they still want to marry you, and visa versa, after that it must be love.
oh and the 'bashful bladder' issues soon work themselves out. :)
Perhaps you will find this comforting. My wife and I were married after 7 years together! Still going strong.
Very comforting! Congratulations and many happy more years to come :)
My husband and I lived together for almost 2 years and we've been married for almost 5...we're nowhere near being divorced yet.
Oh..the poo thing...I always told him I was going to go do a crossword puzzle, he figured it out...lol.
It's a matter of commitment. If you have the mindset of marrying for better or worse, you tend to stay married.
If you have the mindset of "I'll stay married as long as it's not too hard," you tend to divorce.
People who live together to find out all about each other, are by the very fact that they are doing so saying that they want conditions met before they commit.
That's why they divorce more often if they marry. In my opinion.
I think God wants what's best for all of us. When He makes a law, it's not to mess up our day. It's a blessing. The law preventing us from living together is a blessing for us, not a curse. In my opinion.
I agree absolutely about mindsets but sometimes living together is just a matter of practicality.
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